I’ve created a monster!
For a long time around the Carlson household, I had it easy. My wife was busy with her projects leaving me to fuss and bluster about doing my own things and getting wild and crazy in our retirement. Truth was, I had my head stuck in my own projects and wasn’t making much headway.
Well last month my wife got focused. “We are in a rut!” she tells me. “I need some excitement.”
Since then, we’ve been skydiving, horseback riding and Friday we are making another day trip to San Francisco. In the past, I’ve used my wife an an excuse for not doing more. I told myself it was difficult to get her moving. Maybe that was justified then but no longer. If there is any anchor around here, it’s me.
It’s no longer all about me.
I’m always the smug one that tries to look superior whatever the discussion. But I am seldom the leader of the pack pushing the envelope and making it happen. I don’t like to be called out as a poser but that is exactly what my wife is doing (in a nice way of course). I like to think I’m spontaneous and quick to act. The truth is that I want lots of information before I can get myself moving. It make me uncomfortable to be pushed which is probably why I dither rather than taking action.
Life is fast and furious.
So lately with my wife’s pressure, we’ve been doing rather than thinking. Truthfully acting quickly doesn’t seem to cause any problems and it definitely saves time. What has happened recently to us is that we are now working as a team. My wife is pushing me to overcome my weaknesses as I do the same for her. Short term, it’s darn annoying. Long term, we are going to do more and enjoy the journey. I hate being pushed but, like a mule, I do move when you get my attention.
Bottom line, my wife and I operating as a team will make our retirement better and richer than either of us following our own track separately. Those faults that I recognize in myself but can’t change get her attention and we are all better for it.
It’s all a process.
We are still coming to grips with working as a team. Neither of us has been much of a team player up to now, but we are leaning. It’s not always easy but the benefits are undeniable. Managing a retirement lifestyle can be a challenge whether you are single or a couple. Singles may lack motivation without a partner to urge them on and couples may reinforce inertia rather than change. If you are married, how do you see the teamwork. Are you a natural team or is it still a struggle to work together?