Ralph Carlson Blog

Have you ever said “If only…..”?

If you have, how do you feel when you say it?

You feel good, don’t you? The pressure is off. You can relax because a successful life is totally beyond your control. It takes you off the hook. It gives you a pass. It allows you to feel good about yourself even as you wallow in mediocrity. Thank heaven for that phrase because it makes life bearable.. There is only one problem. It’s a big-assed lie invented by mediocre people who have given up the dream of a successful life.

Have you ever heard a successful person say “If only….”?

Of course not. There is no ‘If only…’ for successful people. People creating a successful life only say “How can…”. They don’t accept excuses. If you want success, you shouldn’t either.

What is your ‘If only…’?

So the challenge for today is asking yourself what is the ‘If only…’ in your life?  What is the one thing that keeps you from having a successful life?  Is it one of these?

If only I had been accepted at Harvard.

If only, I’d gotten that job.

If only I were good looking.

Whatever it is, confront it. Challenge it’s authority. Move right on and ask yourself “How can. I succeed?”

My question for you today is to tell me what is your “If only…”. Then explain how it blocks you from a more successful life. I confess that mine is “If only… I were good with people and knew how to talk to them”.