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Comedy – How to be Funny

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I am not funny. Any amusement I provide others is purely by accident. I can’t tell a joke, relate an amusing event or embellish a speech or presentation with any levity. If you can do any of these things, please move on to some other post because you don’t need my assistance. For all others, I share some resources and a tip or two that may help.

Stand up Comedy

It never crossed my mind to become a stand-up comic – until this week. It isn’t that I somehow decided that I want to make a living from stand up comedy. What I did decide is that just because I can’t do stand up comedy now is no reason why I can’t learn to do stand up comedy.

I continue to forget that human beings have this wonderful ability to learn. I tell myself repeatedly that I am just not good at x or y or z. This lets me off the hook. I don’t have to be responsible for that limitation – because it is not my nature. I let myself be limited. I don’t have to accept that limitation. I can learn to do new things. So that is why I was thinking about becoming a stand up comic. Where would I go to learn how to do stand up comedy?

Well, one place is this website providing training and encouragement for stand-up comics and stand-up comic wannabes. It is hard work to become good as a stand-up comic. But the comments show that there are lessons to learn and that by serious effort and discipline you can improve. I may not want to be a stand-up comic but I can clearly learn some good communication tools from comics and maybe even how to make people laugh.

Telling a Joke

You won’t be surprised to learn that until this week, I never lifted a finger to improve my joke-telling ability either. I was happy to tell people that I lack the ability to tell a joke and smile while they suffer through my heavy and dull presentations. Joke-telling is another of those skills that I dismissed as innate and therefore beyond my ability to learn. It also saved me the effort of learning how to tell a joke and practicing to improve my skill. There are a few principles to guide you in learning how to tell a joke and a number of places easily available on the web to provide them. Check them out here and here.

Funny writing

Nobody ever asked me to write something funny, certainly not at work. Maybe I was asked at school but if so, I don’t remember. So if I were going to write a humorous essay or story, it would be for my own pleasure. “Who teaches students to write humor?” I wondered. Then I found Connie Weiss who teaches humorous writing.

My point here is really not about comedy or humor. It’s about our willingness to self-limit our potential rather than accepting the opportunity to learn and grow. I will no longer excuse myself by saying that I can’t tell a joke.  I will accept that joke telling is something that has not been important enough for me to learn.  And then tell myself that it is about time for me to change.

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Why New Years Resolutions Fail!

How about those New Years Resolutions?

Waste of time? or not!

It’s that time of year, the time when everybody looks back on the old year and wonders where it all went. 2011 was going to be the year where your life finally came together; where you are focused on serious goals; where you finally break out of ordinary and more on to outrageous. At the finish line, I find that 2011 didn’t meet those expectations. I have some thoughts about that which will go into another post. Right now I’m focused on 2012, an empty slate full of potential. How should I approach this opportunity to extract every ounce of potential? What resolves should I embrace to position myself for accomplishing my goals?

Be strategic, not emotional.

I’ve changed my perspective on New Years resolutions. In the past I always thought about changes that I wanted to accomplish: things like losing 20 pounds, finding a new job, saving money. I mostly failed with those resolutions and I eventually gave up on resolutions like I think most everybody else.

What I have learned is that accomplishing those goals is a result of changing myself. I need to be the person who weighs less, attracts new job opportunities and makes better spending decisions. Changing how I live can ultimately give me the results I want. Staying as I am will keep me where I am. Making those resolutions without changing myself is a waste of time.

It is the means and not the end.

It is easy to get focused on the end result because that is where the emotional satisfaction is produced. The completed task is easy to picture and describe. But picturing the finishes product tells nothing about how to make it happen. The problem lies in the actions necessary to accomplish them. The how is almost never a part of a resolution and without a how the path to the end goal may not be clear. Without a clear path it is easy to miss the target. And the clear path is changing yourself. It is a process. It means losing old habits and forming new ones. It means venturing into new territory outside ‘normal’. It means growing and changing. It means taking control instead of being controlled. Ans it feels pretty uncomfortable and not very satisfying for a long time.

No wonder that New Years resolutions aren’t taken seriously. Without a plan, they are more like wishes for a fairy godmother than a resolve to change your life.

Instead of those traditional New Years resolutions that you give up on almost before you start, I have a different suggestion. Make a resolve to make a change in your habits. Acting differently is something that you can start on January 1. You can claim success right from the start. But even better, if you select the right habit to change you become the person you want to be.

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