How you can overcome doubts

Do you ever go stale?

232441976 3b656ae066 m1 How you can overcome doubtsWhatever your motivation, no matter how well you plan, and no matter how smoothly things are going, it is going to happen. You wake up one morning without the fire that has kept you pushing on, Something seems missing. Those goals aren’t so golden. The vision isn’t so clear and you just want to roll over and sleep. So what is the problem? Did you get off course or is it just the way the cookie crumbles? Can you fix it and get your activities back on course or have you lost it for good?

There is no warning.

It just happens. You are working hard. You see the vision of where you want to be. You are putting the pieces in place. You start to live the lifestyle that you want. Suddenly and for no reason you begin to doubt. The excitement dies. Work looses meaning and becomes drudgery. Despite all you effort, you slide from focused excitement back into a life of doubt and confusion What does it mean and what can you do about it?

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There are many ways to explain what is going on. You might call it life inertia which wants to pull human activity back from exceptional to ordinary. You might see it as the Devil who fights the extraordinary side of human nature and encourages ordinary and average by planting doubt where none is justified. Whatever the nature of the force, it is hard wired into the human psyche and impossible to ignore. It is easier and more natural to fail than to succeed and something deep inside pulls us back from success.. Success is uncomfortable enough but striving for success before you reach it is torture.

Self-doubt challenge your every action by questioning your worthiness.

 ”Who do you think you are?”

“Why do you think you deserve to succeed?”

“What makes you so smart?”

Self doubt accompanies any journey into the unknown, particularly an ambitious one. Only a strong will can resist the call to fall back to ordinary efforts and expectations.

What can help?

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In my experience, only one things works and that one thing is to ignore all those negative messages and keep going because once you stop,it’s all over. You lose everything and must start all over again.

When you keep moving something always happens to reveal that the negative messages are lies. But sometimes keeping going is hard to do without some help. One help is a companion on your journey who shares your vision and can encourage you when you are down, Another is a mentor/coach who can encourage and cheer you on when you have a good plan and are making progress.

Bottom line when you have a plan which reincorporates real, heart-felt dreams and goals and serious activity which you have vetted with people who know how to have what you want, just keep plugging whatever your mind tells you. You are too close to the action to judge. Sometimes progress is not incremental or measurable along the way. Work is incremental steady effort. Success is sudden and amazing when it comes.

Work your plan and trust your plan.

 

 How you can overcome doubts

Retirement: What gets you up?

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It’s over! Sunday I set the clocks back when daylight savings time ended. I used to look forward to the end of daylight savings time just for that one extra hour of sleep. No more. This year without the rigid schedule of a job, the time change is nothing more than a regulatory quirk. I can ignore it if I choose. Retirement means that I can get up when I want.

This raises a whole new issue. In my working days, getting up was not an option. I was committed to spending 8 hours a day at a location of my employer’s choice and my prime objective each morning was to deliver myself to that location whatever it took. Mostly that meant dragging myself out of bed and showing up at the job site. I didn’t want to get up most days but what I wanted was irrelevant. I didn’t have control. I put the best face on the situation I could. I pretended. I said I liked my job. I said I liked my coworkers. And so for 35 years I got up every morning and went to work. Continue reading

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What is your retirement strategy?

This is not about investments!

 What is your retirement strategy?

Choose, don't settle.

Retirement strategies means more than managing your investments. Having enough money when you retire is important but not the only thing you need to manage. Retirement can mean 10 to 30 years (maybe more) years of your life. What you do with those years will make the difference as you look back on the day you die. Retirement strategy means what you did with those years, how you handled the resources of time, life experience and accomplishment. Were those years satisfying and fulfilling? Did you meet your life goals? Did your life matter? The answer lies with you and how you met the challenge of retirement.

It’s very personal.

Retirement strategy is a personal decision. There isn’t any universal measure of success or failure. It starts with what is important to you. It can be personal and self-satisfying or universal and altruistic. It can be timid or bold. In the end, nobody else’s standards matter. You are the master of your life.

Have conviction! 

Once you decide to make a plan, you have committed to taking control of your retirement lifestyle. You won’t accept just anything. Your life is important and you will do whatever necessary to make it as you want. But what are the options. I see it like this. There are three retirement strategies that you can embrace in your retirement plan. They are all good because they represent your decisions. So long as you have considered the options and selected the one that makes you happy, any strategy can be the right one for you.

Once you pick, you aren’t stuck with your choice. You can change strategy at any time. Don’t get hung up on which is the right one. Start by picking the one that feels right. The worst thing you can do is fail to choose because when you don’t choose a strategy, you aren’t in charge. You don’t know what will happen and somebody else will make decisions for you.

Strategy One: Stick with what’s working.

 What is your retirement strategy?

Keep doing what you love.

Maintain your current portfolio of life activities, relationships and environment. Change the amount of time you allocate as needed but don’t change much else. This would be most appropriate when you are pretty satisfied with your lifestyle or it might be what you choose while you try to decide what changes you want to make.

Strategy Two: Learn some new things.

 What is your retirement strategy?

Become a master

Choose this strategy when you know that there are some parts of your lifestyle that don’t work they way you want. This doesn’t mean you change everything at once. If you find more than one deficiency then pick the one that is most important and learn something new to make it better. This could mean taking up a new activity and becoming good enough to satisfy yourself. It could mean improving on skills you already have and becoming more expert. Then change your lifestyle to include your new skills.

Strategy Three: Shake things up.

 What is your retirement strategy?

See the world!

This is the most risky because you move away from what is familiar and you can’t always get back if you find you made a mistake. It also has the most potential to transform a dull retirement into something outrageous. This strategy could mean moving to another place, traveling more frequently. It could mean making a reality out of a long time fantasy like becoming a beachcomber or a volunteer for a foreign aid program. With this one, there are ways to test out the changes on a short term basis before committing to permanent change but if you don’t feel drawn to a big change in your life, this one may not be right for you.

Your turn! 

I hope you have chosen a strategy and aren’t letting control of your life drift. Leave a comment to let me know which path you are on and how it’s going.

 

Diggin’ Comedy

 Diggin Comedy

Digging Comedy

Getting comedy out of Digg turns out to be a non-trivial pursuit.  There is a lot of news about Comedy Central and TV series but nothing exploring what is comedy or how to do it.  Maybe I just have to dig deeper.

Well here is one that seems to match our definition of comedy as social commentary.  This woman hires a stripper to impersonate her at her high school reunion.  This hits close to home with me because the high school is the one my sons’ attended.  This women is near the age of my older son so he probably knows who she is.

And a science breakthrough from UCLA – of course.  Researchers identify the brain cells that are trggered by the Simpsons but don’t respond to Friends.

Now Digg tells me that it is just too busy to waste it’s time searching comedy for me so that’s all for this week.

Originally posted 2009-07-20 08:47:22. Republished by Blog Post Promoter