Back in Action

It’s been a long hiatus from blogging.  How do I explain and why am I back?  Not sure that I know but touching base with my blog is a step on the way.

In theory, all is well with me my family and my life.  Instead of reveling in a good life and enjoying the trip, I find myself dissatisfied and critical.  I am conscious of  all the imperfections in my decisions and as a result, hesitant about moving on.  One constant in my life is a need to be perfect and make the right choices.  I have struggled before and moved on with less than perfect actions which turned out ok.  It seems that I can’t learn that lesson however and continue to struggle.

It has been over a year since our last trip to Florence.  Deterioration of both knees (bone on bone joint action) caused me to reconsider knee replacement surgery which I had dismissed.  I discovered that this surgery is quite refined and the recovery is quick and changed my mind last summer.  The first knee was replaced in September and I was so pleased that I scheduled the second in December.

My knees are trouble free by now although full healing will take a few more months.  Originally I expected that we would be ready for travel in March,  My body, however,  has been telling me otherwise.  It seems that fixing my knees and the bad posture that resulted from the knee problems has caused my back to complain.  I have good support from a personal trainer but I still lack the feeling of recovery that I need to schedule a trip.  I want to feel good before committing but something tells me that I need to move forward.

Thinking about this sticking point brought me back to blogging.  There is clarification in putting my mental gymnastics into words.  I hope that my mission and path will come clear as I journal the endeavor.

So that is why I am back.  There are, of course, more details and issues in my life but those can wait for later.  I need to be moving right now and posting this report puts me on record.

Satisfying Retirement

Change who you think you are.

Change who you think you are.

Rather than straining to write a new post today, I’ve got a better idea.  One man can’t cover all the relevant topics related to managing and enjoying what people who don’t know better call ‘those golden years’.  My focus right now is maintaining my health, traveling two months each year, keeping my three blogs moving and working on a new business development idea.  Those activities are a small part of the universe of issues of an aging lifestyle but they stretch my time and abilities to the limit.  I’d like to become a resource for people who seek a rich and active lifestyle as they age but there are limits to my experience and knowledge.

One of the best ways I can help readers to chart their own retirement course is to recommend and refer to other sites.   Satisfying Retirement, managed by Bob Lowrey is one of those sites.    He covers the range of topics likely to  be important in planning for retirement or keeping on course.  There is a link to Satisfying Retirement in the sidebar and I suggest that you check his content regularly.  Bob keeps current on statistics, new trends and can help you sort out what you need to know from trivia and hype.  He also urges you to think about how you want to live and to change your thinking if your lifestyle doesn’t match your wishes. [click to continue…]


Musing about emotional security

Today my mind’s on security- not financial security although it’s very important- I mean emotional security, the state of feeling comfortable in your own skin and with others. I don’t have it and in my dotage I am beginning to question my rationalization that it isn’t really important.

During my working years, one of the cliché management training exercises was about trust. They would ask you to stand with your back to your partner and then fall backward with the belief that he would catch you. I’ve never had to participate but I’m sure that if necessary I would happily trust my partner in the exercise to do his part. No trust is necessary because the exercise is a sham. It’s too public for anyone to risk not doing his job. Letting even a lousy bastard fall while your co-workers are watching would ruin your career.

Who can you trust?

Who can you trust?

The exercise seems to tell a story but it means nothing because it’s not real. Never in life have I needed someone to catch me from falling on my ass. The exercise is just an allegory to represent emotional support which is something entirely different. Just because I can trust a co-worker to catch me physically when the entire office is watching in no way convinces me that he will catch me emotionally or, more important, that he will want to.

Security in life is built on trust. When the demons come- as they will – who will have your back emotionally? Who will tell you to ignore the demon’s bluster threats? Who will promise to hold your hand until they leave? Who will cheer you up when you feel alone and helpless? Who will tell you that you have what it takes to prevail, that you are valuable and important? Who can give you encouragement when the demon attacking you is you? Who can you trust? [click to continue…]