Outrageour Travel Lesson 7

Take chances!

You aren’t reading this post because you are looking for the fanciest cruise line or the best tour company.  You want your travel to be special and unique.  You don’t want average.  You don’t want to go with the herd and so you didn’t choose the 10 day all expenses paid tour with a new city every night.  You decided to spend enough time in one place to learn its rhythms and idiosyncrasies.  But don’t stop there.  Get off the beaten path.  Go where the tourists aren’t.

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Get lost!

Outrageous travel is an attitude adjustment.  It changes you from passive observer to active adventurer.  When is the last time you took a chance?  Picked the road less traveled?  Chose the action where the outcome was unknown?  If you can’t remember, then you haven’t been living life to the fullest.  One of the reasons for spending one month in a place is to get yourself out of a rut.

Many decisions in life are driven by a scarcity mentality; People avoid making risky decisions because they can’t afford to take a loss.  If you travel on a tight schedule, you can’t afford to waste time and so you pick the sure things- the guided tours, the ‘best’ attractions,  the ‘top rated’ events.  You follow the herd.   As a result you get ‘programmed’ into the crowd of ordinary tourists doing ordinary things and see more of the back of the tourist ahead of you in line than the place you are visiting.  You see the same things that everybody else sees.  Your pictures look like everybody else’s pictures.  Your memories of your ‘once in a lifetime’ trip consist of standing in line.  It doesn’t have to be that way.

A month long outrageous travel experience gives you other options.  Certainly you want to see the famous attractions which will inevitably mean crowds and lines.  But there is more you can do.  You can take chances.  You can check out some of the not-so-obvious attractions, go where the crowds aren’t and where the natives are.  You can experience what regular life is like in Rome or Buenos Aires.  When you approach travel as a lifestyle choice instead of a schedule of events, each moment is an adventure.  You don’t know the results.  You can’t predict what the day will bring.

It is a sad thing that this lesson is necessary but getting older makes it harder to embrace uncertainty.  Life, the accumulation of relationships, assets and experience encourages caution.  Young people have little to lose and time to recover.  As people age, each year adds something more to protect and reduces the recovery time for loss.  It is natural for people to increasingly avoid risk until it becomes a principle.  But much is lost as well. Taking the safe path lowers risk but limits adventure, personal growth and joi d’vivre.  This could be the beginning of a treatise on life but we will focus on travel for now.  On your travel, playing safe minimizes risks but until you look at the balance between risk and reward, you won’t know that playing safe is the best course.

There is a lesson for life from finance.  Financial analysts don’t avoid or embrace risk.  they manage it.  Portfolio analysis manages risk by combining high and low risk investments to maintain a comfortable overall risk level while maximizing income.  This is important because low risk investments almost always provide lower income.  The highest income results from using high risk instruments.  A financial analyst’s job is to select the proper portfolio of low and high risk investments to provide the highest income.  It is the same with life.

So on your outrageous travel month in Rome or wherever you decide to go, manage that risk.  Take some chances on your schedule.  Look for the minor attractions because they are often better and more accessible than the tourist must see list.  Do what the locals do.  Ride the bus or subway.  Check out the markets.  Get lost.  Sit in a sidewalk café and let the world go past.  Don’t worry about wasting your time because an adventure is never wasted time.  At worst, your experience will make a great story once you get back home.

Here’s to Success

Success Heres to Success

Much as I like electronic media for it’s easy access and inexhaustible resources, for me, it will never replace print. I read books and magazines and can’t imagine life without them. They are portable and readable in ways that will never be satisfied by a kindle or laptop. An example is Success magazine which I have been reading for a year or so. Sometimes an issue may not resonate but usually each is full of easily digestible chunks of wisdom and suggestions for deeper study.

The October 2009 issue is no exception. Inside you will fine a reprint from 1977 of an article by John E. Gibson with this insight that caught my eye.

Is the person who has a modest opinion of his own worth, but is actually more capable than he thinks, the most likely to succeed in whatever he undertakes?

No. Vocational studies at New York University show that the person who underrates his abilities has two strikes on him before he starts. He is inclined to accept jobs “where he does not think he will be adequate and where he actually will not tend to be adequate.” This vicious circle traps the person whose opinion of himself doesn’t match his abilities an makes it extremely difficult for him to succeed. Moral. Don’t sell yourself short in the self-esteem division.

If you need more motivation to seek out the issue, Serena Williams graces the cover. I recommend that everyone who is serious about stepping up their game read Success regularly.

 Heres to Success

Originally posted 2009-10-05 09:26:38. Republished by Blog Post Promoter

Christmas Vacation

We decided to spend Christmas away from home this year. The idea was to simplify and to eliminate any holiday craziness. Both of our grown-up sons joined us but not for the whole week and only overlapping each other on one day. We had great plans. I was going to sort out my priorities for the new year and come back with a refreshed perspective and a plan to build income. My wife’s plan was to take photographs of the beautiful northern California coast.IMG 1292 300x225 Christmas Vacation

We also planned to read. My wife selected mysteries. I took a thick Sci-Fi novel that I had deferred for more serious reading but I also took some business reading that I hoped to study.

We packed carefully, loading the car with food and gifts, dropped off the cats and then drove the three and one-half hours to the Pacific Ocean and the quirky, architect-designed house we rented just feet above the crashing surf.IMG 1317 300x225 Christmas Vacation

Now, one week later, we are back home. Did I accomplish everything I wanted? Do I have the plan for next year? Am I reved up and focused on making money? Not exactly. We did read. There is nothing more wonderful than reading with the surf crashing on the rocks and a blazing fire. I did take some walks. We did get a chance to talk with our sons and renew some intimacy which we had lost in recent years. But my big plan for next year is still somewhere in the clouds waiting for me to pull it together.

I feel like I squandered the opportunity to make those plans in a relaxed environment but maybe the truth is that the real value of a vacation is the opportunity to unwind, enjoy the beauty of nature and bond with my family. The plan needs to be done but maybe I undervalue the benefits of play. This past week was a wonderful time where I could let go and enjoy scenery and relationships. I can still prepare my plan now that I am back at home but a new part of that plan will be figuring out when we can get back to the coast for some more vacation.

Originally posted 2009-12-29 15:48:23. Republished by Blog Post Promoter

Outrageous Travel Lesson 6

When things go wrong, deal with it and move on

It is a fact of life.  Things will go wrong- sometimes a little, sometimes a lot.  Don’t let it bug you.   Often you will exaggerate the significance of the damage.  The more time you think about it, the more you blow up the problem.  It is what it is.  It happened.  It’s over and no amount of second guessing, wishful thinking or regret can change history.  Look at it with calm dispassion.  Assess the damage and look at the possible steps forward.  Pick the best one and act.  Don’t beat yourself up.  Don’t worry about who is responsible.  Don’t look for a scapegoat.  Your mission is to enjoy your trip.  If there is a lesson, you can study it later.  What is important right now is moving one.  You are experiencing the trip of a lifetime (every trip you take from now on will be the trip of a lifetime) and you can’t afford to waste one moment dwelling on the negative. Use this travel lesson.

travel lesson Outrageous Travel Lesson 6We all want perfection.  In the US we are conditioned to expect- even demand it.  But perfection only exists in the imagination or the mind of a government bureaucrat.  Life is imperfect.  Human beings are imperfect.   Still we would like everything to go as smooth as clockwork.  No one wants errors, glitches, faux pas or anything short of perfection.  We don’t want do overs, quick fixes or redesigns.  We just want to keep moving, keep our original schedule and, above all, look good.  It’s human nature.

Given all the pressure we put on ourselves in stressful situations where there are big investments in doing things right (like a vacation), it is no wonder that things going wrong can make a good man turn ugly.  Don’t let that good man (in the old fashioned meaning that includes both sexes) be you.  There is a lot of pressure, a lot of money and most important of all, a lot of ego riding on the vacation. In the end, however, what will make the trip a success is not that nothing went wrong.  The trip’s success comes from handling the good and bad with grace, enthusiasm and enjoyment.

A true outrageous traveler doesn’t let anything ruffle his feathers. He expects the unexpected.  An outrageous traveler understands that when things are perfect, he’s been damned lucky.  Don’t get cocky and overconfident.  Enjoy the moment.  Tomorrow will be normal.

Don’t expect perfection.  Don’t think that you can escape reality.  Plan for the best but deal with whatever comes along.  It’s real.  It’s happening.  It keeps you on your toes.  It opens up opportunities you never anticipated.  Best of all, it’s exhilarating- even fun when you relax and go with the flow.

Dealing with a problem from time to time only makes you appreciate life’s pleasures all the more.  Those problems, once you move past them also make great stories when you get back from the trip.  Perfection is so boring.

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I have been trying to understand the psychology of comments.  Why people comment and why they don’t.   As you might expect, bloggers can relate.  I just came across a thread at Social Photo Talk where Aaron discusses I Almost Left a Blog Comment.  He raises the issue of the hassle of commenting when you are reading blogs on Google Reader.  This is something I never considered in my list.  I suggest you listen to what he says and join the discussion.

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Originally posted 2010-02-04 12:08:37. Republished by Blog Post Promoter